Mediation services are available to those going through divorce. But did you know that mediation services could help with your post-divorce issues? Before you spend your time, energy, and money to drag your ex-spouse back to court, you might first want to try taking your case before a mediator to resolve the issues in a more expedited and streamlined way. Experienced mediators are available to assist you in bringing your differences to an end and finding a solution that works for the best interest of both the parents and children.
Areas where issues commonly arise after a divorce is finalized are:
Children Expenses vs. Teenage Expenses: If your children were very young during your divorce proceeding, there are likely many issues that were not addressed in your original divorce proceedings, for example, which parent will cover the children on car insurance, which parent will pay for a vehicle for the child, or what type of arrangement you will have for payment of college tuition and living expenses. Children might also become involved in an activity or sport that requires a significant investment of time and money. Ultimately, the expenses associated with a teenager are far different than the expenses associated with a child and oftentimes a modification of support is necessary.
Enforcement/Modification: If your ex-spouse isn’t abiding by your divorce agreement, you will have to enforce it. If your divorce agreement needs to be modified (whether it be for support or custody reasons), your ex-spouse will have to agree to the modification in writing, or you will have to ask the court to modify it based on the change in circumstances. In order to enforce or modify an agreement, a motion needs to be filed for the court. This usually involves both parties hiring a lawyer and court hearings being scheduled. While this is often the route taken, the cost of both money and time is substantial.
If parties are willing to consider mediation prior to filing lengthy post-judgment applications, an effective mediator can help resolve post judgment disputes quickly and economically. The mediator charges a fee that can be shared between the parties and the mediation can be attended with or without attorneys. The mediator listens to each person, understands his or her desired outcome and then suggests solutions that help the parties come to an agreement on each issue. Neither party is forced to enter into an agreement during the mediation, but if the parties are able to reach an agreement, it is often confirmed in writing through a Consent Order and considered binding as if it were ordered by the Court.
Be sure to choose a mediator that is trained and has experience in family law matters. A family law attorney that has specific training in mediation will be familiar with the many aspects involved in co-parenting and also with solutions that have been successful for other parents.
If you and your former spouse are experiencing differences in parenting that you are unable to resolve on your own, consider securing the services of an experienced mediator. Solving post judgment issues through mediation can be quicker, less expensive, and more amicable than a court battle. At Ruvolo Law Group, LLC, our mediators have the necessary qualifications and training requirements and are “court approved” mediators pursuant to the New Jersey court rules.